2006 A3 - upgrade to steering wheel with paddle shifters
 

I am trying to install a paddle shifter steering wheel on my 2006 non paddle A3 2.0T.

It appears the car side connector is just slightly different from the one used with the airbags/wheels of the 'paddle' cars.
I can force the connector in, but cannot get the shift function or the radio buttons to work (I have VAGcom, and tried some softcoding changes).

Can anybody provide some tips?
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Can someone with a paddle steering wheel (and DSG, FWD, normal radio, no board computer) post their softcode settings in the steering wheel (and radio or other modules that are influenced by the steering wheel)?

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