ok... so heres the thing. i was talkin to this girl now for about 2 months... and we started off hangin out on like sundays, then it went to sat and sun, then of course to fri,sat,and sun, well anyways we can't hang out during the week cuz i work nights and she works days, so yeah. well anyways, i told her i liked her on sunday and she said that im her "best friend" and that she doesn't think that we should talk to much anymore becuz she doesn't want to lose me.... well, she jus broke up with her bf like 2 or 3 weeks ago, but she's been callin me "baby" "babe" "hunny" ya know all that stupid cute ****, and sayin she loves me and i am pretty sure she likes me, but wtf am i supposed to do.... jus not talk to her and wait for her to call me or should i stick with the "friends" BS and wait it out..........i don't know what to do!!! well yeah... jus venting.

 

sounds like a pretty fu<ked up situation...and that statement i bolded doesn't make any sense at all...sounds to me like you need to give her space...LOTS of space, if you know what i mean

 

she just broke up with her boy rite so im guessin she needs some space and she doesnt know what she wants rite now

or

shes just playing u for a good time

 

good point..... possibilty, but to be honest i don't think she would, but you never know right. [&o]

 

Girls are tricksters... LOL All I'm gonna say on that one...

 

You have been "friended". Easy to get there, hard as hell to get out.

The problem is that right now, she does not view you in a sexual light (and sex is really the only big difference between a good friendship and a good relationship).

If you want to progress things, you have to make her want to. You have to get her to see you as a sexual being. A good way to start that is touching. Not like grabbing or groping. But like when you walk through a door after her, put your hand on the small of her back and sort of "lead" her through. When you're talking to her, emphasize a point by placing your hand on her upper arm, just for a second, then let it drop. If she gets new sunglasses, come up with something nice to say about them, and say it as you're brushing her hair back to get a better look. Look at a ring or bracelet, but hold her arm gently with one hand while examining the jewelry with the other. There is a bio-chemical reaction to touch, use it. You can't bonk her without touching her, so get her used to your touch.

There is more I should write on this, but I have a migraine that's making me a bit genocidal, so I should probably stop typing and get some rest.

 

u need to let her be. If she wants to persue it any further she will call. If she told u not to talk to her dont. Start looking other places for women. There is no point in chasing after her if she doesnt want u to.

 

Listen to Silver - he is the mack daddy...

But.. in my opinion - right now, she's not in the right frame of mind to have a relationship ...
& from the sound of your post it seems like u like her & could be falling for her.

If thats the case.. space is your friend right now...
She doesnt know what she wants & shes using the fact that youre their to fill the missing void she has now...

Give her some space & time.. youve allready made your intentions known right? youve done your part..
its up to her to meet you half way. or at least get her head straight so u dont risk being the "rebound guy"

Only good things can come w/ time.. youll see things clearer...

 

THANKS GUYS... silver, sounds like something from hitched! lol but still, good, i see what you mean. apg, good point, i think i will try and find someone else, and turbobudda i have gotten my point across to her and told her i liked her. i also am falling for her, becuz she is nothing like any other girl i've been dating. i mean she is the best girl i've met in over a year now. and you've seen her too, she was the girl that came with me to the meet last month. but anyhow, im tryin to fight the urge to call her or text her at the moment, but with your guy's advise it helps not to. thanx

 

Yeah, well. I used to be quite the ****. I'd try to hit any girl I though was hot, and as a psychology nut, I tried to figure out the science behind playing the Casanova. I probably spent as much time in clubs and bars just trying to figure out the secrets than I did actually wanting to pick up girls. I remember a few times that I actually walked away from chicks that were 9.5 on the scale, chicks that were ready to go home with me, because I'd learned what I wanted from them about the art of the pick-up and left to continue the pursuit of knowledge with other girls. Doh! But at least I've got the club/bar/bookstore/social circle pick-up down to an art form. Now if I could just figure out the internet pick-up, I'd be unstoppable! Muh-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha.... (or hehehee, for Sadi )

If you think you should move on and not try to move things along with her, then that's good, but don't do it because you think that's the only option. With what I know, you could have her begging for you in a month.