ok, so i started typing this long story that probably would have been boring so i will just explain it with ease. one of my friends hooked me up with this beautiful girl, and we go on a few dates, having the best time in the world. we weren't officially together but we were getting there. and then she started being a flake.

my friend told me that she started dating this other guy. she still likes me but im option b for her, which makes me feel wonderful. she doesn't know that i know she is dating another guy and im am trying to figure out a way to get her to tell me without letting her know i know.

if i can't be the #1 option i am going to drop her.

any ideas, comments?

thanks for listening to my fustrations! [:@]

 

hey bro..sounds like you got some tough times on your hands..and believe me..i know the feeling...

i would say just call her out on the fact that youve noticed shes been a little different...i wouldnt bring up the other guy..just the fact that shes acting weird...

and if she tells you about this other guy...then you can go from there...and let her know that you want to be number one..and if she doesnt tell you about him...then casually mention it..."i mean, whats going on...are you dating someone else or something?..having family problems?.."...if you casually bring it up like youre guessing..she'll probably never know that you know shes dating someone else...

good luck man..

 

don't play games. life is too short.

if you trust your source, just walk away. what have you got to prove to a skank that'll treat you like THAT, anyway?

if you're not 100% sure of your source, just come right out and face her with it. she'll prolly lie, since that what people like that do, but, if you read up a bit on spotting people's "tells" (much better time spent that plotting how to trick someone into revealing they're a skank) you'll be able to easily spot hers, and know with more than reasonable certantity. and walk away.

even of you have doubts, walk away. relationships (ANY kind of relationship) is built on trust. w/o it you're just lyin to yourself.

life is too short. save teh games for the playground (or, the interwebs, these days, huh?)

 

agreed ^. Let the next conversation be. "So what"s the story with you and this other guy? Not a problem, but while I am interested in you, I want to understand where I need to devote my energy. Can you help me out with determining that?"
It gets to the point, leaves no room for wiggle and puts you in the right light. Not jealous, demanding or pathetic.

 

i agree with that!
not only is it to the point, but it has a certain "nonchalance" about it.
it says "i'm only as interested as you are, nothing more, nothing less"
also it makes her feel like maybe she doesn't have you as wrapped around her finger as she thinks.
i don't like playing games either....but people always want what they can't have....men or women.

 

+10 for agreeing with me. E-flowers are on the way.

 

I'm with the rest - but here's a slightly different tactic, imho- don't confront it, just walk away. Keep it jovial, but be firm and confident that this is the right decision.

"Hey, I hear you're dating another guy, sorry, but that's not my style -we've had some fun, really, and I wish you the best. But I can't do this. Keep in touch, beautiful."

Whatever you do - don't falter. Be strong and stick to your guns without being an icehole. Play it cool and cavalier. But not aloof or snooty. This does so much more for you, mate,than you know.

1. Pretty girls are use to guys bending over backwards for them this will floor her.
2. Shows her that you're more secure about yourself than you probably are.
3. Women are just as suceptable to going for what they cannot have than guys are. Ever notice those that keep chasing the guys that could care less about them?
4. And last, you maintain your dignity and self respect.

If she does come back and it's a good chance she will, play it cool don't leap back into her lap like some ignored puppy. Women love a man that is essentially his own man.

Been there, done that and glad I walked when I did - in my case.

Good luck, mate

 

bone her and film it and post it on youporn.com and give us link

cased closed!

 

Just walk away because you will never be happy knowing you are #2 in her life.

 

Do that. Effff it.