Between the fuggin USPS, TTstuff, and the fact that my car has been up on the lift for OVER A WEEK.
It's so frustrating that I can't install my suspension, because I have to wait for parts to be delivered!!!
I don't usually complain but dammit this is ridiculous! I just wanted to install my lowering springs.
In the process, I discovered that my shocks were shot and had to order new ones.
This wasn't the issue, as my shocks and struts were delivered in 2 days. The problem lies in waiting for my camber kit!
Which should of been delivered to my house on Thursday! The tracking number is of no help, as it says the Post Office hasn't received the package yet! [:@]
I don't think I would mind too much if I had time that I could take off of work.
But I don't, my personal days are used for taking my father to his doc. appointments!
As pops has many health complications to begin with.
Now to add to his list... his recent blood work came back not looking good and renal failure is in question.
Which places me in another $hitty situation!
Oh, speaking of $hitty situations. How could I forget that my brother has recently confessed his addiction to PCP and suicidal wishes....
This places a whole new spin on things, as he won't go for treatment and is 27 years old.
Thoughts of calling the mobil crisis team have crossed my mind.
But there is not much they can do, unless he's walking around with a gun or knife in his hand (aka poses a serious threat to himself).
Even if that were to happen all they can do is take him to a treatment center, (which just so happens to be my hospital) and hold him for 3 days to detox.
After those 3 days he would be out. Unless he decided to sign himself into treatment there's nothing else that can be done.
Except get him arrested.... [&o]

There's more going on but those are the biggies... Needless to say, I think I've reached my limit.
Thanks for letting me vent!

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Hey, if your Bro needs someone to talk to, a neutral 3d party, to talk out his probs,PM me and I'll give you my # to give to him... He's welcome to ring me up anytime, 24/7 (I suffer from insomnia anyway, so, even if he called at 3-in-the-morn there's a good chance I might be up). Of course, and you already know, it only works if he WANTS to talk about it. But, I'm willing to listen, if he's willing to talk.

 

Jazz - Thank you for your incredibly kind offer!

vnv727 - Thank you also! It's difficult to help those that won't face the issue themselves. Still won't stop me from trying though!

I really appreciate your responses guys! It means a lot to me knowing that others see there is a problem here!!!
As according to my family I'm crazy and acting over dramatic. Which actually doesn't surprise me, since they don't want to deal with the issues at hand.

What gets me the most about my brother, is that he has now claimed to have stopped smoking PCP after 5 years. I'm still waiting for him to go through withdrawal...
I've brought this up to my family and (heh you'll like this part) mom claims "Well he wasn't really addicted, like he said".
If you don't know, a drug addict (well actually most addicts for that matter) will say ANYTHING to continue abusing their drug of choice.

As for my Father. Well more tests have been ordered, and nobody is telling me which tests or what the results are.
I don't know his creatinine levels, BUN, RBC, all I got was a number of 1.7. Which I can only assume is a high creatinine (only one that makes sense).

I'm half tempted to go visit my Father's doc, and slap him around a bit.
Quack told my mom "I've been watching the levels steadily increase, seeing that he is a diabetic who "maxed-out" on his insulin, a smoker, and has other severe health issues.... Things are going to start to happen".

Which is true, things are going to start to happen.......... When you sit back and let them!!

 

Here is my idea. first sorry this is happening and im not trying to bring laughter into the equation but i think this will help.
Ever see the Crow where that chick is doing Heroin and the Crow makes it come back out and she never does it again? Well thats the approach you need to take.

Pull the Real Genius idea on him. Put some speakers in his room or something, talk to him at night while he is almost asleep, make him think god is talking to him and say the stuff has to stop. Maybe the fear of that will make him change. i dont know just an idea to help.

 

I haven't seen that movie, but I have thought of getting some documentaries and making him watch them.
My fear is that he would think it was "cool" or give him more reason to continue using.
When someone is self-destructive the last thing you want to do is give them ideas to help execute their plan!

 

Im so sorry to hear about your troubles right now Becca...[&o]

maybe its intervention time for your bro???

as for your pops health - you know more than most of us here since your in the field...
& what are your gut insticnts telling you? does he need a new primary physician?
a 2nd opinion?

obviously all these issues going on dwarf the suspension woes -
but it doesnt help that its all piling up.

do your best to vent - & then take a moment to re-focus / reevaluate the situations..
you know you cant solve everything all at once - so just try & take everything in perspective.


a wise wise Af member once said " get knocked down 6 times - get up 7"

were pullin' for ya kid !

keep your head up ! & let us know how its going..

 

Sorry about your problems outtie, I hope all the family issues turn around for the better. Hopefully your brother realizes its best for him to get help, thats the only way things will get better.

Wish you luck

 

My offer stands. You're (AF)FAM, so we GOTTA help each other out. Your Bro my think he has no other option but to continue as he going. You & I know that's not true, but, when you're in teh middle of something you think is beyond your control (addiction for instance) you can't see that there are other ways and means. Your spiral only seems to go down, never leveling off, never looking up. I've had a friend, or two, over the years, succumb to addictions and addictive mind-sets. They all felt that there wasn't anyone who understood, and they all got lame advice (such as, "MAN-UP!!! and get over it), which doesn't always help.

Lemme know if you want my number to pass on...

 

vnv, you need to do a hypno-gif, for her... So she can hypnotize her Bro into getin his sheit together

Seriously, we're all here for you, you know that.

 

Jay: Thank you for your positive words of encouragement!
I can't really say much about my Father, because I don't know the results. But I do feel he should see a nephrologist (kidney specialist).
This has been expressed numerous times to my family. All I can do is keep repeating myself, until my car is back on the road and I take him myself.
It drives me bananas that I wasn't there to advocate on my father's behalf when all of this happened.
For my brother, well, it wasn't by any means an organized intervention. But there have been "magical talks" between my grandma, mother, and brother.
I say "magical" because they believe he is now cured. That by them having talked he'll straighten out.
To which they are completely oblivious to the fact that this is why there are professionals for situations like this!

Amaze: Thank you! I hope so as well!

Jazz: You're absolutely right! Unfortunately behavior is a "funny" thing, never logical, and impossible to change on someone unless they choose to do so.
I'm aware that the only way for things to get better without my brother being committed would require just that; the impossible.
Having each member change their attitude and behavior is just not going to happen. This of course leads into those other issues I referred to earlier.
Which I'm not going to get into. You'll just have to take my word for it.

vnv727: Yeah, sometimes one person can have such an impact to influence someone to make a better decision. Which is GREAT!!
I'll be okay deciphering the test results, once I find out what they actually are. All I can really do now is model good behavior, and repeat myself to my family.


Thank you!!!