ya i hear ya. Im pretty sure i used the method it shows in the owners manual, which is: "push a button on the remote. then within 60 seconds lock or unlock the door lock"
Im pretty sure this worked just fine on the 2nd fob i bought after i thought i lost my first one.

or you could try this method if you have another key:
http://audiworld.com/tech/misc13.shtml
I'm pretty sure thats doing the same thing though but it seems like either of these methods should work for you. one thing im fairly sure of is that you do NOT need to pay the dealer to program it because its that easy

 

ok fair enough.. but like i said my code thingy is 43r something... so does that mean the 4d0 will not work?

 

^--- From what I read, any 2 button FOB will work with our cars. The only time you need to pay attention to those numbers is when getting a 3 button FOB (the one with the trunk release), basically on the 3 buttons, there are 2 different FOB's which look exactly the same, but only 1 of those works with our B5's. You wouldn't need the 3 button FOB because your car is pre-facelift and it didn't include the trunk release. In summary, buy any 2 button FOB. As far as the programming, please don't go to the dealer. I programmed it myself using the first link in my previous post. It really is very easy.

 

ok thanks.... i found a 2 button on ebay for like 20 bux.. hopefully everything works out once it gets here... ill let u guys know the status to make sure the method works u mentioned... thanks again for your help

 

Alright man, keep us posted and let us know if you need help.