Thanks again AWD....couldn't have done it without your help....unplugged the pump and so far no leaking from the headlight washers....

 

poked/peeked/felt around/above/under the thingy (<--technical term) hmm never thought of mechanics like thatbut yes the fuse #3 is linked to the A/C and numerous other things so its removal will disable more than what you think

 

There is a release on the connector. Most likely you will need a screwdriver to move the relese. The side with the part that ticks out is the release side. There are two ways to get it out. You can stick a mall screwdriver between the connector and the pump at the part that sticks out. Then gently push in and pry downward to get the release away from the pump. The other ways is to stick a screwdriver on the top of the release. There is a slot that seperates the release from the connector body. Put a screwdriver in there and twist the srewdriver while pulling the connector at the same time.Also you can twist the pump to try and get a better look at the connector.